Skepticism and apprehension when seeking professional help on private issues are healthy responses given the enormity of the task, the courage it requires, and the practical considerations that it entails. In my view theories and clinical experience are important but the fact remains that in essence therapeutic work can only be successful if the relationship between the two of us is one of trust, care, openness, and honesty. Creating a safe and confidential space is therefore paramount. This has nothing to do with theories - it is all about who we are and how we relate to one another.

My way of working focuses on understanding distress before attempting to eliminate it. This is because I firmly believe that distress - no matter how severe - is trying to 'voice' something meaningful, which deserves attention and respect. Through exploration and clarification of the ways we are feeling we can come to a point where a different navigation of our modes of being and relating becomes possible. Becoming aware of how we relate to ourselves, other people and our life in general is part and parcel of change.